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What is perinatal depression?

Is depression stealing you?

Why women don’t ask for help

What is perinatal depression?

It is a common condition called perinatal depression that affects 1 in 7 women* during pregnancy or up to one year after childbirth. Perinatal depression is more than the “baby blues.” It doesn't go away on its own within a couple of weeks.

Perinatal depression changes the way a woman thinks, feels and behaves. It can make her seem so different that the people who know and love her barely recognize the person she has become. Some women try very hard to hide their feelings and pretend everything is okay.

Happily, with proper care and treatment, women who have perinatal depression can soon start feeling like themselves again.

*Source: Postpartum Support International, www.postpartum.net

Is depression stealing you?

Think about how you have been feeling and acting during the past week or two:

  • I feel sad or hopeless most of the time
  • I don’t laugh at things like I used to
  • I don’t enjoy doing things I used to enjoy
  • I am more anxious and worried than usual
  • I feel scared or panicky but I don’t know why
  • I can’t concentrate or make decisions
  • I am quick to blame myself when things go wrong
  • It is hard to get to sleep and stay asleep
  • I don’t have the energy to do what I should be doing
  • I feel tired and just want to sleep all day
  • I cry a lot because the smallest things upset me
  • I have thoughts about hurting myself or my baby


Do more than one of these statements describe how you feel? If so, you may have perinatal depression and you should get help right away.

Why women don't ask for help

Some women won’t seek help for perinatal depression even though they are suffering from many of the symptoms.

They may be afraid to tell anyone because they have fears like these:

  • “People will think I am a bad mother”
  • “My child(ren) will be taken away”
  • “I will lose my partner”
  • “I will be arrested or hospitalized”


The truth is that all these are much more likely to happen if you DON’T ask for help. Depression that is not treated can get worse over time, making you less able to care for yourself, your baby and your family.

Some woman don't tell because they think feeling this way is normal when you're pregnant or have a newborn.

Or they think the feelings will go away soon. Or they think sharing these feelings with others would bring shame or embarrassment.

What really happens when you get help is this: You start to feel better. You start acting like the mother and partner you always wanted to be.











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